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Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Self-Esteem Boosters for Women

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Women have learned all the secrets and little tricks that can make their faces glow, their bodies firm and their skin and hair flawless. But there's one area where we still have much to learn. And it has a lot of bearing on how we look as well. It is in taking care of our self-esteem.

We all know that when we're feeling down, inferior or unworthy, our faces sag and our overall features look tired and defeated. Some may even argue that have strong self-esteem is more attractive than having the right physical attributes, and they may have a point. Following are a few simple tips that can help women rev up their self-esteem.

1. Press The Magic Button -- Most of us need to boost our self-confidence every now and then. One of the best ways to do this is to recall exactly who we are and why we should feel good about ourselves. Create a Magic Button -- a mental image of three things that make you feel good -- and press on it once in a while. These things could include images of your biggest achievements, the smiling faces of people who matter to you or something as simple as a piece of music.

This Magic Button is especially important when we down and things aren't going our way. We have to remember that whatever setbacks we've faced are temporary. We've overcome them before to reach success. Press that magic button.

2. Overcome self-consciousness -- Yes, self-consciousness is probably the biggest enemy of self-confidence. We tend to look at ourselves too harshly and focus on our perceived faults and shortcomings. To overcome self-consciousness, you should try focusing on others: try to put other people at ease, check the room for people who you might learn to like, make a mental note of possible business contacts.

Sometimes, if focusing on other people proves difficult, we can ease our self-consciousness by looking intently at our surroundings -- examining paintings, admiring furniture and decor, anything that will take our minds off ourselves.

3. Don't Stand For Undue Criticism - Sometimes our self-esteem ebbs because we allow others to treat us like rags and walk all over us. This is something we should never allow, even if we have made a mistake or come up wanting in a situation. We should bear in mind that even top-notch people make mistakes.
Kadence Buchanan writes articles on many topics including Women [http://iwomensworld.net/], Beauty [http://universeofbeauty.net/], and Women's Health [http://forahealthywoman.com/].
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Thursday, August 9, 2012

Friday Affirmation

My possibilities are endless!

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Daily Affirmation - Wednesday

I open my eyes and see the world in a new light. I view everything as if I were a child seeing a freshly opened flower for the first time.

Monday, August 6, 2012

Self-Soothing Techniques

Some of us may recognize these techniques as things that we already use. But many of us have never learned how to self-soothe, how to do those often simple things that makes us feel better. These are mostly very physical techniques, that use different body senses. Some of us have never had the feeling that we could do things to make ourselves feel better, calmer, feel relaxation or pleasure. I urge you to experiment with these techniques until you find some that are comfortable and helpful for you. And when you find these, practice them. Use them when you are feeling distressed, when emotions feel overwhelming, when situations feel like you can't stand them any more. Instead of doing something that hurts you, try something that gives you pleasure and comfort, 

SELF-SOOTHING has to do with comforting, nurturing and being kind to yourself. One way to think of this is to think of ways of soothing each of your five senses:

  • Vision
  • Hearing
  • Smell
  • Taste
  • Touch

VISION:
Walk in a pretty part of town. Look at the nature around you. Go to a museum with beautiful art. Buy a flower and put it where you can see it. Sit in a garden. Watch the snowflakes decorate the trees during a snowfall. Light a candle and watch the flame. Look at a book with beautiful scenery or beautiful art. Watch a travel movie or video.

HEARING:
Listen to beautiful or soothing music, or to tapes of the ocean or other sounds of nature.  Listen to a baby gurgling or a small animal. Sit by a waterfall. Listen to someone chopping wood.  When you are listening, be mindful, letting the sounds come and go.

SMELL:
Smell breakfast being cooked at home or in a restaurant. Notice all the different smells around you. Walk in a garden or in the woods, maybe just after a rain, and breathe in the smells of nature. Light a scented candle or incense. Bake some bread or a cake, and take in all the smells.

TASTE:
Have a special treat, and eat it slowly, savoring each bite. Cook a favorite meal. Drink a soothing drink like herbal tea or hot chocolate. Let the taste run over your tongue and slowly down your throat. Go to a potluck, and eat a little bit of each dish, mindfully tasting each new thing.

TOUCH:Take a bubble bath. Pet your dog or cat or cuddle a baby. Put on a silk shirt or blouse, and feel its softness and smoothness. Sink into a really comfortable bed.  Float or swim in a pool, and feel the water caress your body.


Discussion

Many of us may feel like we don't deserve these comforts, and may find it hard to give pleasure to ourselves in this way. Do you have these feelings?Some of may also expect this soothing to come from other people, or not want to do it for ourselves. Have you experienced this feeling? You may feel guilty about pleasuring yourself in this way. It may take some practice to allow yourself to experience these pleasures. These are really simple human pleasures that everyone has a right to, and that will give us some good tools to use when we are feeling bad.
Exercises

Try at least one of these self-soothing exercises this week. You may want to choose a whole group of things, say all the visual things, or you may want to choose a single thing to try. As you do what you have chosen, do it mindfully.  Breathe gently, and try to be fully in the experience, whether it is walking in the woods or watching a flower or taking a bubble bath or smelling some fresh-baked bread.

As you begin to overcome your feelings that perhaps you do not deserve this, or guilt, and start to enjoy one or more of these activities, you will be learning very useful tools to help you deal with negative feelings and difficult situations.

Daily Affirmation - Tuesday

Happiness is a state of mind. I am happy!

Daily Affirmation - Monday

My path is all clear of hurdles.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Holiday Fair

The Women of Liberty will have a booth at the Fair!  We'll be selling earrings, bracelets, necklaces, and Poinsettias!  

 

Holiday Fair!

Supporting Liberty Community Services’ Safe Haven Sunday Brunch for New Haven’s Homeless Community

Date:   Saturday, December 1
Time:   8AM – 10AM Set Up
           4PM Close
Place:  The GoldenCenter
           268 Park Street, New Haven, CT 06511
Vendor Space: 8’ x 8’
Vendor Fee:  $75.00

Friday Affirmation

Life is my ritual. I celebrate every moment, every thought I have, every breath I take.

Affirmation - Thursday

I express the joy of living. I allow myself to enjoy every moment of every day totally. I love myself. I am safe and secure.

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Daily Affirmation - Wednesday

Divine Love flows through me now; healing All

Daily Affirmation - Tuesday

I am healthy and happy and can defeat any illness. No illness can break my spirit.

Friday, July 27, 2012

Daily Affirmation - Monday

I awake each morning excited to begin a fresh new day. Each day is a new opportunity for me to embark on. I welcome today's events joyously.